Online Anxiety Therapy in California

I provide online anxiety therapy for adults throughout California who want to quiet an overactive mind.

You might often replay conversations, wonder if you said the wrong thing, anticipate what might happen next, and try to stay one step ahead so everything goes smoothly. You’re typically quite active, and your mind is also quite active. By the end of the day, it feels like you're carrying around a second full-time job inside your head.

Folks with high-functioning anxiety don't always realize they're anxious because it feels normal to carry a heavy mental load. Many of the people I work with are thoughtful, reflective individuals who spend a tremendous amount of energy managing what's happening internally. Therapy can help you understand the patterns driving anxiety so you're not constantly anticipating, preparing, and trying to keep everything under control. Instead of spending so much energy managing your mind, you can begin to feel more present in your relationships and in your life.

This Might Sound Familiar

Common signs of anxiety include:

• A relentless inner critic and pressure to do everything flawlessly

• Overthinking that’s hard to interrupt

• Rumination that doesn’t fully resolve

• Feeling mentally on most of the time

• Difficulty relaxing, even when everything seems fine

• Sleep disrupted by racing thoughts

• Pressure to respond a particular way in relationships

• Trouble staying present or enjoying sexual intimacy

If this resonates, know that you’re not doing anything wrong— this is a pattern your nervous system learned for a reason, and it’s something that can shift with understanding and practice.

Ready to explore your patterns?

Anxiety in Relationships

Anxiety doesn't just affect your thoughts—it also shows up in how you connect with the people you love.

It can show up as spinning thoughts, as needing more reassurance than you would like, as sexual blocks or low libido, or having difficulty sharing your true thoughts and needs out of fear of upsetting your partner. Often time, the more important the relationship, the harder it can be to quiet those worries.

Anxiety also has a way of sneaking into intimacy and can disguise itself as perfectionism. You might notice yourself trying to be the perfect partner, monitoring your reactions, and getting pulled into your thoughts instead of staying connected to your body.

This creates a frustrating loop: the more pressure you feel, the harder it is to stay present. The harder it is to stay present, the more disconnected you feel. And the more disconnected you feel, the more likely anxiety is to show up again the next time.

The good news is that anxiety therapy can help you shift this dynamic. Working with a specialized anxiety therapist allows you to understand the underlying feelings and beliefs that accompany these mental spins. In our work together, I’ll help you notice the themes that get caught on repeat so you can slow down the narrative and stop the loop. Together, we'll explore what's driving those patterns so you can feel more grounded, more secure, and fully present in your relationships.

Anxiety and Perfectionism

For high-functioning adults, anxiety often doesn’t appear as panic but more commonly wears the mask of perfectionism.

You might tell yourself that your high standards are just who you are, but underneath the drive to achieve is an exhausting pressure to keep everything under control. It’s the belief that if you prepare perfectly, perform flawlessly, and anticipate every possible problem, you can prevent things from going wrong.

In reality, perfectionism is an automatic mechanism your nervous system uses to try and feel safe. It creates an unforgiving inner critic that turns every minor mistake into a referendum on your worth.

Therapy helps you unravel this cycle. Together, we’ll work to separate your value as a person from your output, helping you soften that relentless inner critic. You can learn to trade the rigid, exhausting rules of perfectionism for actual confidence, flexibility, and ease.

How Anxiety Therapy Helps

A lot of people try to think their way out of anxiety. But anxiety isn’t just happening in your thoughts—it’s something your whole system is doing.

Anxiety therapy helps you:

• Notice anxiety patterns as they happen instead of letting them run automatically

• Shift out of overthinking and break the cycle before it escalates

• Calm your nervous system so your body feels more settled and present

• Respond differently in situations that used to trigger automatic stress reactions

• Feel more grounded, more present, and more connected

As therapy continues, anxiety tends to feel less constant and less intense. Instead of getting pulled into the same loops over and over, you'll develop a different relationship with anxiety—one where it no longer dictates how you move through your life.

Anxiety During Life Transitions

Anxiety can shift or intensify during major life transitions, and I work with many women who are thrown into the chaos of midlife changes during perimenopause and menopause. Suddenly you’re back in a place of disorientation—emotional ups and downs, and it feels like you’re back in puberty again.

Sleep disruption alone can make everything feel louder, leaving you more reactive, less grounded, and more vulnerable to just about everything. Your usual coping strategies might not work as well, and you may find yourself needing a bit of extra support.

This phase of life often brings deeper questions. What do you want the next phase of your life to look like? What are you tolerating, and what needs to shift?

Anxiety doesn’t have to be bad. It can be a signal that something beneath the surface isn’t working for you. Therapy provides a space to regain your footing, reconnect with your desires, navigate anxiety, and move forward with more clarity and meaning.

Need support through life transitions?

Anxiety and Sexual Intimacy

When you choose to work with a sex therapist, conversations about intimacy will often be part of our work together. As anxiety dissipates, intimacy often feels easier and more enjoyable.

Therapy can help you:

• Move out of your head and feel more present in your body

• Quiet a mind that stays active or distracted during intimacy

• Let go of pressure to perform and focus on connection and presence

• Reconnect with desire when anxiety has dampened libido

• Spend less time monitoring your partner's reactions and more time tuned into your own experience

• Focus on your own needs, wants, and pleasure without feeling responsible for managing everything

• Feel more relaxed, authentic, and connected during intimacy

Instead of worrying about whether you're doing things correctly, you can begin to trust yourself, stay present in the moment, and experience intimacy in a way that feels more natural and fulfilling.

Anxiety Therapy May Be a Good Fit If

• Anxiety or overthinking affects your relationships, intimacy, or ability to be present.

• You’re high-functioning but don’t feel truly at ease

• You don’t necessarily identify as anxious but something feels off

• You want to understand the root patterns driving your anxiety, not just cope with the symptoms

• You’re ready to understand your anxiety instead of just managing it

• you’re wanting to break free from a cycle of perfectionism and self-criticism

If any of this resonates, feel free to reach for a free 15 minute consult.

• Phone: 310-226-8440

• Email: lg@lgtherapy.net